aaajmachine:

The moment the entire fandom started silently weeping.

I silently wept watching them film this scene, but then broke down sobbing, for literally forty-five minutes, when this episode aired.  This moment is like, my whole childhood right here. 

(via aaajmachine, source: karmyes)

I’ve had this conversation so many times. 

(via interactyouth, source: negovanman)

interactyouth:

Did you catch tonight’s episode of Faking It?! Lauren tells Leila and Lisbeth her secret! Each week we’ll be talking to different Inter/Act members, a group of young 14-25 year old intersex people, asking them to relate their intersex stories with what Lauren is going through. 
What is Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS)?
Milly: Complete AIS is the Intersex condition Lauren was born with.  It means inside she was born with typical male (XY) chromosomes and internal testes — instead of ovaries and a uterus.  But on the outside she appears typically female. 
Unfortunately, many AIS girls have had surgery to remove their internal testes — even though they are perfectly healthy. Doctors and parents often feel the need to remove typical “male” gonads from their little girls. Thankfully, this is starting to change because in most cases their testes are keeping them healthy. 
We’re really excited that Lauren has AIS so she can help raise awareness about these unnecessary surgeries and ultimately, help stop them from happening. They end up having to take hormone pills to replace the natural hormones their testes were producing.  AIS girls do not get periods and are can’t have biological children.
AIS is on a spectrum. At one end, someone can be completely insensitive to androgens, and then moving on the spectrum to partially insensitive. Lauren has Complete AIS (CAIS) which means that internally she has XY chromosomes and testes but no typically female reproductive organs, and externally she developed like a typical female. Her testes were probably removed when she was younger. Because she doesn’t respond to testosterone, she doesn’t have oily skin, little to no body hair, and minimal body odor. Typically, people with CAIS identify as female. But not always.
People with Partial AIS (PAIS) fall somewhere along the rest of the AIS spectrum, and are partially insensitive to testostorone. There is alot more variation in how people look with PAIS, and some identify as female or male, neither or both. People with PAIS have different responses to testosterone, and nobody develops in exactly the same way. We are all unique and wonderful!
Lauren takes estrogen. Why? What’s that like? Do all intersex people have to take hormones?
Daphne: Unfortunately, many AIS girls like Lauren have had surgery to remove their internal testes and They end up having to take hormone pills to replace the natural hormones that their testes were producing to keep them healthy.  
Not all intersex people have to take hormones, it really depends on their situation, but a lot of them do. Taking hormones can feel different to everyone. To some it might not be a big deal, but to others it might be really difficult. There is a lot of emotional impact that can come from these little pills, at times it could feel like they dictate your life, but sometimes you forget they even exist. It’s all a process.
Xandra: A non-intersex female with developed ovaries usually produces enough estrogen to spur sexual development and maintain balanced bone health. However, because Lauren has Complete AIS (CAIS) and doesn’t have ovaries, she takes estrogen pills to maintain her physical and emotional health. Sex hormones, like estrogen, have complex interactions with our brains and bodies, so people born intersex with hormonal deficits are prescribed estrogen, testosterone, or a combination of both to meet the needs of their individual body and gender identity.
Lauren can’t have kids. Can YOU have kids? How has that affected YOUR life?
Xandra: I have Swyer Syndrome, a different intersex condition from Lauren’s, but similarly I can’t have biological children. I’m the eldest of six kids and growing up I imagined a future with children possessing my mother’s hazel eyes or my dad’s thick brown hair. After my diagnosis, it pained me to accept my infertility. I closeted my feelings of shame and feared my  future partner’s intolerance and prejudice. However, I’ve grown to accept that I can be a mother without the physical act of bearing children. There are many options for families unable to have kids including adoption, surrogacy, or living childless! 
Daphne: I didn’t grow up in a very liberal household. Since I was little it was instilled in me that the main purpose of my life would be to start a family and raise a couple of children. This belief was shattered when I found out I couldn’t have children, being a AIS female. It was hard for my mother to learn that I couldn’t fit this mold she had made for me, but I didn’t really know what to think of it. I was 15 when I found out, and what 15 year old seriously thinks about raising a family? My biggest concern till then was passing my Physics test, and then all of a sudden, it wasn’t. I had to think about these very adult things, I had to confront some things that most of my friends still don’t even think about now. It was pretty hard, especially with adults telling me things like “you’re so young, you don’t have to worry about it now,” because I did have to think about it. I had to face it. It was tough because it made me grow up very quickly and feel like I was different from my peers in a very crucial way. But, at the same time, not being able to have children made me realize that I am worth so much more than my ability to produce children, the It sucks not havingre is more to me out there and there are greater things I can pursue if I choose to. the choice to make cute little people that look like me, but with time it gets easier. You learn that there is more to being a mother than the physical act of carrying and delivering a child, I know now that I can still be a mother if and when I want to.
Milly: I grew up in a community having kids is like a woman’s number one mission. That made it SOO hard to accept the fact that I couldn’t do this ONE thing that most woman can do accidentally. It made me think I was so unlovable, so unworthy of ever being in a good relationship. At 25 I now know that’s not true, but it sucked so bad that I felt like this at 12 or 16, or 21 years old. I always planned on adopting, because the question was always “HOW are you going to have kids?” not “Do you actually WANT kids?” But now I’ve realized I don’t want kids at all! I’m happy being a cool aunt, and having little furry dog children. 
How did it go when you chose to tell people?
Alice: I have told lots of people and each person has handled it very well. I’ve always been the type to share a lot about myself. I did feel like I had to keep it a secret in general,  but I’ve always been very trusting with friends. It hasn’t backfired on me yet except for the first friend I told in middle school. She threatened  to tell a boy I liked (because she also liked him), but she didn’t and we were still friends after that. It was a while before I told more people.
Lenny: It’s been surprisingly wonderful. Telling friends is what made me finally reach out to this fabulous intersex community. They gave me support, confidence, and, more importantly, a listening ear. They’ve shown me that being born differently is something I can be and should be proud of. 
  I’ve had friends say a few ignorant things like “Does that mean you’re gay?” but I try not to hold it against them. It’s confusing!
Xandra: At first, it was extremely hard to tell friends that I was intersex. In high school, I sometimes used alcohol to ease anxiety in social situations. It wasn’t cool. After a night of drinking I might spill my feelings about my absent period, ovaries, or XY chromosomes.  I felt abnormal and different, isolated from television shows featuring expecting mothers and irritated by tampon commercials. Over the years, as I soberly disclosed to close friends and created a support network with Inter/Act. I received nothing but supportive affirmations and a few understandable queries! When I told my current boyfriend I was intersex he didn’t freak out or break up with me. Instead he offered support, strengthening our relationship, and I felt empowered facing my fear of rejection. 
Daphne: I waited for a long time before telling one of my closest friends about having AIS.  But when I decided I was ready I was prepared  with little worksheets and stats all laid out to present to her. I was so nervous but when I told her it was amazing. She was so supportive, comforting, and there were hugs all around. It made me realize that we need to have more faith in people. If they are the least bit intelligent and love you then they will try to understand and be more supportive than you could have ever expected.

My answers are the under my alias “Milly.” Hopefully this will help people learn a little more about having AIS!

interactyouth:

Did you catch tonight’s episode of Faking It?! Lauren tells Leila and Lisbeth her secret! Each week we’ll be talking to different Inter/Act members, a group of young 14-25 year old intersex people, asking them to relate their intersex stories with what Lauren is going through.

What is Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS)?

Milly: Complete AIS is the Intersex condition Lauren was born with.  It means inside she was born with typical male (XY) chromosomes and internal testes — instead of ovaries and a uterus.  But on the outside she appears typically female.

Unfortunately, many AIS girls have had surgery to remove their internal testes — even though they are perfectly healthy. Doctors and parents often feel the need to remove typical “male” gonads from their little girls. Thankfully, this is starting to change because in most cases their testes are keeping them healthy.

We’re really excited that Lauren has AIS so she can help raise awareness about these unnecessary surgeries and ultimately, help stop them from happening. They end up having to take hormone pills to replace the natural hormones their testes were producing.  AIS girls do not get periods and are can’t have biological children.

AIS is on a spectrum. At one end, someone can be completely insensitive to androgens, and then moving on the spectrum to partially insensitive. Lauren has Complete AIS (CAIS) which means that internally she has XY chromosomes and testes but no typically female reproductive organs, and externally she developed like a typical female. Her testes were probably removed when she was younger. Because she doesn’t respond to testosterone, she doesn’t have oily skin, little to no body hair, and minimal body odor. Typically, people with CAIS identify as female. But not always.

People with Partial AIS (PAIS) fall somewhere along the rest of the AIS spectrum, and are partially insensitive to testostorone. There is alot more variation in how people look with PAIS, and some identify as female or male, neither or both. People with PAIS have different responses to testosterone, and nobody develops in exactly the same way. We are all unique and wonderful!

Lauren takes estrogen. Why? What’s that like? Do all intersex people have to take hormones?

Daphne: Unfortunately, many AIS girls like Lauren have had surgery to remove their internal testes and They end up having to take hormone pills to replace the natural hormones that their testes were producing to keep them healthy.  

Not all intersex people have to take hormones, it really depends on their situation, but a lot of them do. Taking hormones can feel different to everyone. To some it might not be a big deal, but to others it might be really difficult. There is a lot of emotional impact that can come from these little pills, at times it could feel like they dictate your life, but sometimes you forget they even exist. It’s all a process.

Xandra: A non-intersex female with developed ovaries usually produces enough estrogen to spur sexual development and maintain balanced bone health. However, because Lauren has Complete AIS (CAIS) and doesn’t have ovaries, she takes estrogen pills to maintain her physical and emotional health. Sex hormones, like estrogen, have complex interactions with our brains and bodies, so people born intersex with hormonal deficits are prescribed estrogen, testosterone, or a combination of both to meet the needs of their individual body and gender identity.

Lauren can’t have kids. Can YOU have kids? How has that affected YOUR life?

Xandra: I have Swyer Syndrome, a different intersex condition from Lauren’s, but similarly I can’t have biological children. I’m the eldest of six kids and growing up I imagined a future with children possessing my mother’s hazel eyes or my dad’s thick brown hair. After my diagnosis, it pained me to accept my infertility. I closeted my feelings of shame and feared my  future partner’s intolerance and prejudice. However, I’ve grown to accept that I can be a mother without the physical act of bearing children. There are many options for families unable to have kids including adoption, surrogacy, or living childless!

Daphne: I didn’t grow up in a very liberal household. Since I was little it was instilled in me that the main purpose of my life would be to start a family and raise a couple of children. This belief was shattered when I found out I couldn’t have children, being a AIS female. It was hard for my mother to learn that I couldn’t fit this mold she had made for me, but I didn’t really know what to think of it. I was 15 when I found out, and what 15 year old seriously thinks about raising a family? My biggest concern till then was passing my Physics test, and then all of a sudden, it wasn’t. I had to think about these very adult things, I had to confront some things that most of my friends still don’t even think about now. It was pretty hard, especially with adults telling me things like “you’re so young, you don’t have to worry about it now,” because I did have to think about it. I had to face it. It was tough because it made me grow up very quickly and feel like I was different from my peers in a very crucial way. But, at the same time, not being able to have children made me realize that I am worth so much more than my ability to produce children, the It sucks not havingre is more to me out there and there are greater things I can pursue if I choose to. the choice to make cute little people that look like me, but with time it gets easier. You learn that there is more to being a mother than the physical act of carrying and delivering a child, I know now that I can still be a mother if and when I want to.

Milly: I grew up in a community having kids is like a woman’s number one mission. That made it SOO hard to accept the fact that I couldn’t do this ONE thing that most woman can do accidentally. It made me think I was so unlovable, so unworthy of ever being in a good relationship. At 25 I now know that’s not true, but it sucked so bad that I felt like this at 12 or 16, or 21 years old. I always planned on adopting, because the question was always “HOW are you going to have kids?” not “Do you actually WANT kids?” But now I’ve realized I don’t want kids at all! I’m happy being a cool aunt, and having little furry dog children.

How did it go when you chose to tell people?

Alice: I have told lots of people and each person has handled it very well. I’ve always been the type to share a lot about myself. I did feel like I had to keep it a secret in general,  but I’ve always been very trusting with friends. It hasn’t backfired on me yet except for the first friend I told in middle school. She threatened  to tell a boy I liked (because she also liked him), but she didn’t and we were still friends after that. It was a while before I told more people.

Lenny: It’s been surprisingly wonderful. Telling friends is what made me finally reach out to this fabulous intersex community. They gave me support, confidence, and, more importantly, a listening ear. They’ve shown me that being born differently is something I can be and should be proud of.

 I’ve had friends say a few ignorant things like “Does that mean you’re gay?” but I try not to hold it against them. It’s confusing!

Xandra: At first, it was extremely hard to tell friends that I was intersex. In high school, I sometimes used alcohol to ease anxiety in social situations. It wasn’t cool. After a night of drinking I might spill my feelings about my absent period, ovaries, or XY chromosomes.  I felt abnormal and different, isolated from television shows featuring expecting mothers and irritated by tampon commercials. Over the years, as I soberly disclosed to close friends and created a support network with Inter/Act. I received nothing but supportive affirmations and a few understandable queries! When I told my current boyfriend I was intersex he didn’t freak out or break up with me. Instead he offered support, strengthening our relationship, and I felt empowered facing my fear of rejection.

Daphne: I waited for a long time before telling one of my closest friends about having AIS.  But when I decided I was ready I was prepared  with little worksheets and stats all laid out to present to her. I was so nervous but when I told her it was amazing. She was so supportive, comforting, and there were hugs all around. It made me realize that we need to have more faith in people. If they are the least bit intelligent and love you then they will try to understand and be more supportive than you could have ever expected.

My answers are the under my alias “Milly.” Hopefully this will help people learn a little more about having AIS!

(via interactyouth)

Intersex people are not rare, just invisible.

Unfortunately, there’s a lot of shame and secrecy within our communities, perpetuating the invisibility. I’ve had doctors tell me over and over again that I’d never meet anyone else like me. (Thankfully, that was not the case.) So many intersex people like me have been instructed by our doctors, parents, and friends not to tell anyone about our conditions, which makes us feel shameful and unworthy.

I’ve been poked, prodded, and gawked at by so many doctors, it’s enough to make anyone feel like a science experiment. They say how excited they are to meet someone like you, they’ll “never meet another person like this, ever.” But when they say that to you as a kid, all you hear is “you’re a freak.”

Emily Quinn, “I’m Emily Quinn and I’m Intersex

This is an awesome article and you are amazing for sharing your story!

(via fuckyeahsexeducation)

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I can’t believe I came up on my own dashboard. This is crazy! Thank you for sharing! I’m glad everyone is responding so well to my article, and that people are starting to get a small glimpse into what it’s like to be intersex. <3

(via fuckyeahsexeducation, source: foryoursexualinformation)

interactyouth:

Inter/Act member Milly, with MTV’s Faking It actress, Bailey De Young! Photo from the PaleyFest Event, where it was revealed that Lauren is the first main intersex character in television history!
Inter/Act has been working closely with the cast and crew for the past year on developing the intersex storyline for Bailey’s character, Lauren. Thanks to the show’s executive producer, Carter Covington, for working so closely with us on this! It’s seriously a dream come true for us intersex people.
So much more is coming soon…follow us to see what happens next!

Me and Bailey!! She&#8217;s the sweetest girl in the entire world. You can quote me on that.

interactyouth:

Inter/Act member Milly, with MTV’s Faking It actress, Bailey De Young! Photo from the PaleyFest Event, where it was revealed that Lauren is the first main intersex character in television history!

Inter/Act has been working closely with the cast and crew for the past year on developing the intersex storyline for Bailey’s character, Lauren. Thanks to the show’s executive producer, Carter Covington, for working so closely with us on this! It’s seriously a dream come true for us intersex people.

So much more is coming soon…follow us to see what happens next!

Me and Bailey!! She’s the sweetest girl in the entire world. You can quote me on that.

(via interactyouth)

interactyouth:

Inter/Act has been working with MTV’s Faking It on building a (more) true-to-life intersex character, Lauren (played by Bailey DeYoung). We anticipated a few new people to our page, wondering what exactly intersex is. The following intersex FAQ was compiled by the members of Inter/Act. It is intended to be a living document that we will continue to tweak, change, add-to and subtract from. Please feel free to reference it, re-blog it, and ask us questions (at inter.act@aiclegal.org)
What is intersex?
Intersex is an umbrella term describing people born with one of over 30 variations of sex anatomy resulting in neither purely male or female bodies (internal/and or external). We’re usually taught that sex is merely black and white, “male” or “female,” but that’s simply not true. There are a lot of awesome gray areas in the middle that could make someone intersex! 
What are some intersex conditions?
There are over many conditions that fall under the intersex umbrella including, but not limited to: Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS), Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia, Klinefelter Syndrome, Hypospadias, Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser Syndrome (MRKH), Swyer Syndrome, Turner Syndrome, 5-Alpha Reductase Deficiency. Please see the ISNA (Intersex Society of North America) website for more information on specific conditions.
How common are intersex people?
Intersex people are roughly 1 in every 2,000 people. That’s as common as natural born redheads! Well not as common as redheads, but pretty close. We’re not rare, just invisible.
So how come I’ve never heard of intersex before?
The intersex community has a long history of shame and secrecy, for so many reasons. For starters, many doctors have told patients that they’ll never meet anyone like themselves. Sometimes they’ll even tell them not to talk about their conditions to anyone! On top of that, doctors and parents often try to “fix” intersex kid’s bodies with unnecessary surgeries, trying to make them fit into their idea of “normal.” Not to mention each condition is different, so educating the general public is hard when there is so much information to talk about.
It sounds like intersex conditions can be hard to care for!
They can be. Finding a good doctor that you can really connect with is so important for intersex people. Sometimes doctors don’t know the best way to handle each specific person. We all need to be informed about our bodies, our options, and the research that’s been done so we can make the best decisions possible. Making an informed decision is the most important thing an intersex person can do, so please don’t rush into anything. 
How does gender fit into intersex?
Not quite as simply as you might think! Intersex relates to biological sex and a person’s genetic traits, internal and external reproductive organs, hormones, and secondary sex characteristics. Gender is more about the way somebody feels or identifies. This means intersex individuals identify as female, male, man, woman, or a multitude of identities just as non-intersex individuals do. Some examples include genderqueer, agender, third gender, two-spirit, intergender, and the list doesn’t end there.  It’s important to remember that gender is fluid, not stagnant, possibly alternating its course during a person’s journey 
How does intersex differ from transgender?
Intersex is often confused with transgender, but they are actually very different things. Intersex is when your biological sex doesn’t neatly fit into the male/female binary, but transgender is when you feel as if your assigned sex does not match your gender identity. Someone can be both intersex and transgender!
What terms can I use to talk about intersex people?
Intersex and DSD (difference of sex development) are the two current terms that most people use interchangeably. However, they both are controversial for different people.  Some of our youth feel more comfortable with DSD as it might be the only term they are familiar with, while others prefer intersex over DSD. All intersex folks have the right to self define themselves at any particular point in their journey. It’s better for people to come to their own conclusions about how they want to identify, rather than be told or pushed into identifying a certain way. If you don’t know how someone identifies, feel free to ask!
Can I use the word hermaphrodite?
No. Hermaphrodite is a harmful term that is widely considered a slur, please don’t use it. It’s a stigmatizing word that people associate with having both sets of working genetalia, which is rarely possible in humans, if at all. Some intersex folk have started reclaiming the term, but that is for them to decide and use, not for you. 
What are some other terms I should know?
Ambiguous Genitalia - Genitalia that doesn’t look clearly “male” or “female.” However, no genitals look the same, and nobody’s genitalia is “ambiguous.” It’s all just genitals!
Dyadic - Some intersex people have started using dyadic to describe those who are not intersex (meaning, they fit the “male” or “female” binary)
Cisgender- When a person’s gender identity matches their assigned sex. For example, a person assigned female at birth and identifies as a woman is considered cisgender. This term can get confusing with intersex individuals - some use it, some don’t.
HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy)  - This is an important tool in an intersex person’s tool box. HRT ensures that an intersex person’s physical and emotional health needs are properly maintained. If someone’s hormone needs (for things like development, body regulation, or bone growth) aren’t being met, they may go on HRT to figure out the best hormone levels for their bodies.
Informed Consent - This term gets thrown a lot, especially when talking about surgeries of intersex people. Basically, it means that nobody should be operated on without their full knowledge of circumstances, repercussions, reasoning, etc. For example, babies and children are too young to fully understand and give informed consent.
Preferred Pronouns - Many people (intersex or otherwise) don’t identify as a binary gender, especially when their bodies don’t line up in a typical binary box. Ask someone what their preferred gender pronoun is. They’ll love you for it!
What are some other intersex resources?
We have an ever-growing list of resources on our page. Please check there for more information on support groups or legal help.
What can you do as an ally?
Call out others when they say harmful things. Be our advocates where you can, but also give us a chance to educate. Don’t speak over an intersex person, as chances are we’re a lot more familiar with these issues than you are. Listen and try to understand our stories, as we’re pretty incredible people. :)
Ready to take Action?
Sign the Justice for M.C pledge and learn more about this important case involving a young child who was given normalizing surgery while he was in foster care. The M.C. case is just one example of the ways intersex people and their families are hurt by a rush to secrecy and irreversible surgery.

If you&#8217;re still wondering about intersex I made a handy FAQ with the help of Inter/Act for the Faking It Premiere. Let me know if you have any questions!

interactyouth:

Inter/Act has been working with MTV’s Faking It on building a (more) true-to-life intersex character, Lauren (played by Bailey DeYoung). We anticipated a few new people to our page, wondering what exactly intersex is. The following intersex FAQ was compiled by the members of Inter/Act. It is intended to be a living document that we will continue to tweak, change, add-to and subtract from. Please feel free to reference it, re-blog it, and ask us questions (at inter.act@aiclegal.org)

What is intersex?

Intersex is an umbrella term describing people born with one of over 30 variations of sex anatomy resulting in neither purely male or female bodies (internal/and or external). We’re usually taught that sex is merely black and white, “male” or “female,” but that’s simply not true. There are a lot of awesome gray areas in the middle that could make someone intersex!

What are some intersex conditions?

There are over many conditions that fall under the intersex umbrella including, but not limited to: Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS), Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia, Klinefelter Syndrome, Hypospadias, Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser Syndrome (MRKH), Swyer Syndrome, Turner Syndrome, 5-Alpha Reductase Deficiency. Please see the ISNA (Intersex Society of North America) website for more information on specific conditions.

How common are intersex people?

Intersex people are roughly 1 in every 2,000 people. That’s as common as natural born redheads! Well not as common as redheads, but pretty close. We’re not rare, just invisible.

So how come I’ve never heard of intersex before?

The intersex community has a long history of shame and secrecy, for so many reasons. For starters, many doctors have told patients that they’ll never meet anyone like themselves. Sometimes they’ll even tell them not to talk about their conditions to anyone! On top of that, doctors and parents often try to “fix” intersex kid’s bodies with unnecessary surgeries, trying to make them fit into their idea of “normal.” Not to mention each condition is different, so educating the general public is hard when there is so much information to talk about.

It sounds like intersex conditions can be hard to care for!

They can be. Finding a good doctor that you can really connect with is so important for intersex people. Sometimes doctors don’t know the best way to handle each specific person. We all need to be informed about our bodies, our options, and the research that’s been done so we can make the best decisions possible. Making an informed decision is the most important thing an intersex person can do, so please don’t rush into anything.

How does gender fit into intersex?

Not quite as simply as you might think! Intersex relates to biological sex and a person’s genetic traits, internal and external reproductive organs, hormones, and secondary sex characteristics. Gender is more about the way somebody feels or identifies. This means intersex individuals identify as female, male, man, woman, or a multitude of identities just as non-intersex individuals do. Some examples include genderqueer, agender, third gender, two-spirit, intergender, and the list doesn’t end there.  It’s important to remember that gender is fluid, not stagnant, possibly alternating its course during a person’s journey

How does intersex differ from transgender?

Intersex is often confused with transgender, but they are actually very different things. Intersex is when your biological sex doesn’t neatly fit into the male/female binary, but transgender is when you feel as if your assigned sex does not match your gender identity. Someone can be both intersex and transgender!

What terms can I use to talk about intersex people?

Intersex and DSD (difference of sex development) are the two current terms that most people use interchangeably. However, they both are controversial for different people.  Some of our youth feel more comfortable with DSD as it might be the only term they are familiar with, while others prefer intersex over DSD. All intersex folks have the right to self define themselves at any particular point in their journey. It’s better for people to come to their own conclusions about how they want to identify, rather than be told or pushed into identifying a certain way. If you don’t know how someone identifies, feel free to ask!

Can I use the word hermaphrodite?

No. Hermaphrodite is a harmful term that is widely considered a slur, please don’t use it. It’s a stigmatizing word that people associate with having both sets of working genetalia, which is rarely possible in humans, if at all. Some intersex folk have started reclaiming the term, but that is for them to decide and use, not for you.

What are some other terms I should know?

Ambiguous Genitalia - Genitalia that doesn’t look clearly “male” or “female.” However, no genitals look the same, and nobody’s genitalia is “ambiguous.” It’s all just genitals!

Dyadic - Some intersex people have started using dyadic to describe those who are not intersex (meaning, they fit the “male” or “female” binary)

Cisgender- When a person’s gender identity matches their assigned sex. For example, a person assigned female at birth and identifies as a woman is considered cisgender. This term can get confusing with intersex individuals - some use it, some don’t.

HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy)  - This is an important tool in an intersex person’s tool box. HRT ensures that an intersex person’s physical and emotional health needs are properly maintained. If someone’s hormone needs (for things like development, body regulation, or bone growth) aren’t being met, they may go on HRT to figure out the best hormone levels for their bodies.

Informed Consent - This term gets thrown a lot, especially when talking about surgeries of intersex people. Basically, it means that nobody should be operated on without their full knowledge of circumstances, repercussions, reasoning, etc. For example, babies and children are too young to fully understand and give informed consent.

Preferred Pronouns - Many people (intersex or otherwise) don’t identify as a binary gender, especially when their bodies don’t line up in a typical binary box. Ask someone what their preferred gender pronoun is. They’ll love you for it!

What are some other intersex resources?

We have an ever-growing list of resources on our page. Please check there for more information on support groups or legal help.

What can you do as an ally?

Call out others when they say harmful things. Be our advocates where you can, but also give us a chance to educate. Don’t speak over an intersex person, as chances are we’re a lot more familiar with these issues than you are. Listen and try to understand our stories, as we’re pretty incredible people. :)

Ready to take Action?

Sign the Justice for M.C pledge and learn more about this important case involving a young child who was given normalizing surgery while he was in foster care. The M.C. case is just one example of the ways intersex people and their families are hurt by a rush to secrecy and irreversible surgery.

If you’re still wondering about intersex I made a handy FAQ with the help of Inter/Act for the Faking It Premiere. Let me know if you have any questions!

(via interactyouth)

chloeaftel:

This series has been so awesome, ever subject is unique and open and such a pleasure to work with. I feel like each one was my favorite, but maybe it’s these latest ones.

Some more of Chloe&#8217;s beautiful photos that she took of me for her non-binary photo series. 

chloeaftel:

This series has been so awesome, ever subject is unique and open and such a pleasure to work with. I feel like each one was my favorite, but maybe it’s these latest ones.

Some more of Chloe’s beautiful photos that she took of me for her non-binary photo series. 

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I'm Emily Quinn, And I'm Intersex »

interactyouth:

emilord:

MTV asked me to write a letter to YOU, telling you about what it’s like to be intersex. Let me know what you think!

ICYMI - Inter/Act member, and our Faking It committee leader, came out recently in this open letter posted on MTV’s ACT site about being intersex and what that means for her. It’s a must read. Thank you for your bravery Emily!

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I'm Emily Quinn, And I'm Intersex »

MTV asked me to write a letter to YOU, telling you about what it’s like to be intersex. Let me know what you think!

All I have are these crappy instagram photos as proof that I’ll be in the Meatball Head Show at Meltdown Comics curated by the wonderful Nico!

If you’re in LA then please stop by August 16th at 7! I can’t make it (boo!) because I’ll be at the Emmy’s (yay!) so feel free to take better photos for me. Or just buy them and I can come over and say hello to them anytime I want. Perfect! 

I bet you can’t guess who my pieces are of for the Sailor Moon show at Meltdown Comics this weekend!!

I bet you can’t guess who my pieces are of for the Sailor Moon show at Meltdown Comics this weekend!!

RIP, Robin Williams.

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stevencrewniverse:

If you find yourself around Alhambra, CA on Saturday August 9th, stop on by Gallery Nucleus!!

Cartoon Network and Nucleus present a Steven Universe / Adventure Time tribute exhibition in celebration of Rebecca Sugar’s awesome new animated series!OPENING NIGHT HIGHLIGHTS• Exclusive Steven Universe #1 Variant cover by Rebecca Sugar to be released• Exclusive prints, and shirts to be released by Nucleus and WeLoveFine• FREE SU/AT buttons to the first 100 people in line• Signing with Steven Universe comic book artist Coleman Engle, and other artists to be announced (7:00–9:00pm)• Signing with Steven Universe creator Rebecca Sugar. (7:00–8:00pm) Only the first 100 guests to purchase a print or comic from our pop up shop will be eligible to receive a signature.• Hourly raffle prizes at 8, 9 &amp; 10pm (winning raffle numbers will be announced the following day on our facebook page)• Musical performance by Rebecca Sugar, Jeff Liu (storyboard artist), Ben Levin (story editor), (8:30 and 9:30)• Complimentary refreshments servedEXHIBITION FEATURES• Steven Universe &amp; Adventure Time pop up shop by BOOM! and WeLoveFine• Over 50 tribute art and cover art pieces on display and available for saleADMISSION $5 FREE ADMISSION if you come in costume or with purchase of any Steven Universe/Adventure time merchandise of $5 value or more.Event starts at 7pm • Open to the public • All-ages welcome • No RSVPONLINE PRIZESPurchase any SU / AT merchandise from our website from now till September 1 and automatically be entered to win awesome prizes! Follow us on twitter as we will announce the prizes and winners weekly.Prizes Include: Funko Figure, Monopoly Game, Nooka Watch ($100 value), necklaces, and more…


Come say hi!! 

stevencrewniverse:

If you find yourself around Alhambra, CA on Saturday August 9th, stop on by Gallery Nucleus!!

Cartoon Network and Nucleus present a Steven Universe / Adventure Time tribute exhibition in celebration of Rebecca Sugar’s awesome new animated series!

OPENING NIGHT HIGHLIGHTS
• Exclusive Steven Universe #1 Variant cover by Rebecca Sugar to be released
• Exclusive prints, and shirts to be released by Nucleus and WeLoveFine
• FREE SU/AT buttons to the first 100 people in line
• Signing with Steven Universe comic book artist Coleman Engle, and other artists to be announced (7:009:00pm)
• Signing with Steven Universe creator Rebecca Sugar. (7:00–8:00pm) Only the first 100 guests to purchase a print or comic from our pop up shop will be eligible to receive a signature.
• Hourly raffle prizes at 8, 9 & 10pm (winning raffle numbers will be announced the following day on our facebook page)
• Musical performance by Rebecca Sugar, Jeff Liu (storyboard artist), Ben Levin (story editor), (8:30 and 9:30)
• Complimentary refreshments served

EXHIBITION FEATURES
• Steven Universe & Adventure Time pop up shop by BOOM! and WeLoveFine
• Over 50 tribute art and cover art pieces on display and available for sale

ADMISSION $5 
FREE ADMISSION
 if you come in costume or with purchase of any Steven Universe/Adventure time merchandise of $5 value or more.
Event starts at 7pm • Open to the public • All-ages welcome • No RSVP

ONLINE PRIZES
Purchase any SU / AT merchandise from our website from now till September 1 and automatically be entered to win awesome prizes! Follow us on twitter as we will announce the prizes and winners weekly.
Prizes Include: Funko Figure, Monopoly Game, Nooka Watch ($100 value), necklaces, and more…

Come say hi!! 

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Come check out the opening of the Steven Universe/Adventure Time Show at Gallery Nucleus this Saturday, August 9th, at 7! You can see my bubbline woodburnings in person! They look better than these crappy phone photos, I promise.

random instagram girl sketches. follow me on ig!